2 Timothy 1:7
“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.”
A creation designed in the image of God is who we are. Woven together, delicately formed in the depths of eternity for eternal plans. This is who you are. You were created to display a facet of God that transmits his glory despite your bad decisions and the negative effects of your addiction. You are, a child of God, and this lies at the core of your identity. An identity that has been broken and is viewed from a distorted view due to the unpleasant circumstances that led you to your addiction. This is where Online Christian Counseling plays a role in addiction and recovery. Nonetheless, there is a reservoir of courage, power, and self-control that has yet to be tapped into, and Trinity Recovery Coaching is here to help you on your journey towards healing, recovery and acquiring God’s wisdom in the process.
1. Identify the Voids
There is a deep abyss within you. Chaos exists in your mind, heart, and soul. Chaos that doesn’t cease, pain that doesn’t subside, but instead grows as the days go by. How do I know? I was there. I understand your internal disorder and emptiness. I know all too well the different methods and attempts that are used to fill those voids. And I’m here to tell you that those voids will never be made whole until you encounter the love and redemptive power of Jesus Christ.
As your online Christian recovery coach I will help you uncover the voids that you’ve never been able to fill, for you to heal and recover, but most importantly, to help you tap into your God-given potential. You may know your pain well. You may know how to acquire temporary relief, but I’m here to show you the way towards the everlasting water well that provides permanent satiation— Jesus. I received a second chance at life. A second chance at experiencing the joy that isn’t earthly. Joy and fullness that isn’t dependent on substances, situations, or people, but rather dependent on my relationship with God and his promises for my life. You too, deserve to experience real joy and quality life, but you must be led into a relationship with God to adopt the wisdom that derives from above.
“And so, my children, listen to me, for all who follow my ways are joyful. Listen to my instruction and be wise. Don’t ignore it. Joyful are those who listen to me, watching for me daily at my gates, waiting for me outside my home! For whoever finds me finds life and receives favor from the Lord.”
2. Into the Light
Facing your internal battles is far from easy. To begin navigating through the dark rooms in your mind is a difficult journey to walk. Rooms that host a load of secrets, darkness, and pain that haven’t been exposed to the light. Incidents hiding within that have not yet traveled to your consciousness. There are emotions alive and active in you that haven’t been released from their prison cells. Vivid, traumatizing images that haunt you because you’ve chosen to position your mental state in solitary confinement.
It’s time to seek help and build a reliable support system. You’re not alone. It’s time to allow yourself to be guided towards a relationship with God. It’s time to develop a prayer life and begin asking the Holy Spirit to search your heart, mind, soul, and spirit. To inundate you with the peace that surpasses all understanding. The kind of peace that’ll gift you a double portion of strength to persist in your recovery process, as you shift loads of sorrow from darkness into the light.
3. Rewire Your Heart
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
It all starts in the heart and ends in the form of a deed. One minute you conjure up a thought or you covet something or someone, and those thoughts lead to actions. Every thought is the seed that is planted has the likelihood of undergoing grow. Every thought that is entertained has the potential to be manifested in the physical realm of what is seen.
Do you monitor your heart? Do you evaluate your thoughts? The word of God says that we must guard our hearts above everything else. Think of the heart as the maneuver that needs to be guided in the right direction. A maneuver that requires control. Keep in mind that what you believe determines how you behave; therefore, you must learn to exercise self-control by rewiring your heart through the power of reflection and prayer.
Self-control is a skill that requires practice and development, but most of all, accountability. As your Christian recovery coach, I become a strong point of support that keeps you accountable as we move through the motions of the Genesis Process.
A process that will take you down a path of discovery, and with discovery comes the responsibility to make wise decisions. Decisions that require honesty and commitment. It’s significant that you commit to an honest relationship not only with me as your coach, but you must also commit to the process, to yourself, and commit to pursuing a spiritual life; a relationship with God.
God’s love and peace are like soil, rich enough to produce healing, and all the self-control that you need. It’s at the core of self-control that lies the possibilities of creating a life that is healthy and purposeful.
As you recover from addiction, it’s essential that you also evaluate the five people that you choose to surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with self-motivated individuals that are working hard towards their goals and their dreams, it becomes contagious. Entrench your life with positive relationships. Position yourself around people that you admire, people that are walking with purpose because in due time, inevitably, you too will adopt similar behavioral patterns. It all starts with self-control and accountability.
“You mirror your environment,
choose your circle of influence wisely,
choose people that exude peace, purpose, and faith.”
5. Develop Healthy Habits
There was a time when daily, I chose to engage in unhealthy activities until those choices became second nature, and there I was running on autopilot, living a vicious cycle of addiction; addiction became my norm.
My addiction negatively impacted many areas of my life, and those choices later became deep-rooted habits. Habits are tough to break, but through our faith-based recovery program, we can break the mold of unhealthy habits, and together, we will develop healthy ones.
The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out.
Faith is an integral part of your recovery. It’s not intelligence that will result in a fruitful recovery, but rather it’s the acquisition of wisdom. Wisdom is a key ingredient for a recipe that cooks up healthy habits because once wisdom is downloaded into the hard drive of your mind, you will be programmed to choose to do what is best, rather than opting to fulfill a desire that isn’t good for you. Faith is essential throughout your recovery program, but so is practicality. Always remember that learning to take practical steps is the vehicle to long-term stability and success.
What are healthy habits that you can develop?
Read Books. Self-development is a key ingredient in evolving into a healthy human being. All recovery starts in the heart through forgiveness and repentance. It trickles down to rewiring our thought process via self-control. The mind is the host from where habits derive from. And it’s the small daily decisions which ultimately compound into long-term results. Feed your mind and starve your desires. Feed your mind the word of God. Develop the habit of reading inspirational pieces. Read memoirs that encourage you to continue and fight for your life as others have.
Listen to God. Romans 10:17, “Faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.” The best way to discern God’s voice is by reading and listening to God’s word; learn to identify how he speaks. In most of my waves of depression, when nothing relieved my pain and anxiety, I would listen to the word of God. I would listen to different sermons, and I would cling to every word that was spoken to my spirit. The word of God is a filter that helps you identify what is right and what isn’t. Listen closely.
Speak. Never hold back tears, fears, and worry. You must never suppress your emotions but instead communicate them out loud, speak to someone, develop the habit of reaching out to others. Write down your feelings and thoughts. Keep a journal.
Physical Layer. Just as the mind and the heart require attention in addiction recovery, your body too must find its point of release. Not only will you go through physical detox, but your body will also need exercise to allow it to release that which remains contained. Maybe you cannot express your anger through words, but you may be able to channel it through boxing, running, or a contact sport. Explore different activities and stick to the one you enjoy most. Eat healthier foods because foods affect your mood. Combine exercise and healthy meals, and you’ll experience higher levels of energy that produces the confidence to your sense of self and peace to your internal chaos.
6. There is Purpose in Serving Others
To live a life with a purpose, you must listen to your instincts. Listen to those innate desires. Desires that are linked to helping others. You were created to create. You were designed with eternal plans of impact. Listen carefully to your instincts and know that your story and your pain, can be transformed into the platform that will launch you to your purpose.
Get outside of yourself. Serve others with your gifts and talents. Galatians 5:13 “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge in the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.” Jesus gave us the greatest example of purpose, which is to serve others and extend love and mercy to all. Why? Because it’s when we serve others that we find real joy and life’s meaning.
7. Embrace the Unknown Possibilities
I understand that life hasn’t been easy, but I’m here to tell you that there is hope. Healing can take place if you embrace the possibilities. Your past is your past right? It’s done. It already happened, but if you look ahead, you’ll notice that there is a whole life, a future that is still unknown to you.
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Reread this verse and push away all doubt. These words are God’s desire for you. It’s up to you to enter a covenant with God and allow him to take you by the hand to show you the plans he has already aligned for you. The future is unknown, and that is a good thing for it means that you step into your healing journey, knowing that the best is yet to come. Have no fear; God desires to give you hope, so now it’s up to you to believe and have faith in the power of God.
8. Prayer is the Key
When I began my faith recovery journey, prayer was not something that came easily to me. In moments of desperation and utter loss, I yearned to satiate my emptiness and soul hunger with immediate remedies. However, the more silent I became, the more I gave in to the waves of my pain, the more prayer became my choice of self-medication.
Prayer will physically help you release anxiety. It will help you channel your emotions and help you process what you feel. Inevitably you’ll adopt the skill of self-reflection, and as you reflect upon your challenges, you build up the confidence to respond in a healthy manner.
However, on a spiritual level, prayer can take you to experience the euphoric presence of God. Where the whole world stops and a rush of love consumes every inch of you, signaling your spirit that you’ve entered the spirit realm. Prayer becomes a haven where peace is found in full supply, and God’s love becomes enough. His love leads you to forgive, to love, to let go of anger and breaks down the walls of resentment. Prayer is key.